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A bold and inspiring memoir and manifesto from a renowned voice in the women's leadership movement who shows women how to cultivate the single skill they really need in order to thrive the ability to let go Once the poster girl for doing it all after she had her first child Tiffany Dufu struggled to accomplish everything she thought she needed to in order to succeed Like so many driven and talented women who have been brought up to believe that to have it all they must do it all Dufu began to feel that achieving her care. Drop the Ball Achieving More by Doing Less by activist Tiffany Dufu had me very enthused and motivated at the beginning as it seemed to be well on its way to delivering on the promise of its book description But one by one misgivings started to crop up grow and multiply so that by the end of the book I was unsettled by Dufu s most basic assumptions and motivationsTo begin with while this book appears to hold up Dufu s marriage as a bastion of ideal communication and harmony I began getting flummoxed and finally became fairly exasperated at how bad she really was at communicating at least to begin with She held in her frustrations and annoyances with her husband Kojo to the point of physical stress even occasionally flinging out passive aggressive barbs if not outright verbal attacks She did eventually find a way to talk to Kojo but only after she had hemmed hawed and obsessed about developing just the right phrasing and presentation with which to express herself emphasizing the correct way of wording what she wants to say rather than improving her genuine assertiveness That s because she did not see communication as a valuable end unto itself but rather the means to a goal expressing her feelings was actually pitching a well rehearsed argument meant to manipulate her husband into taking the actions she had already decided in advance that she wanted him to take She had already unilaterally formulated the solution his only role was to come to her conclusion while thinking it was his own idea To her credit on the occasions when her husband surprised her by veering from her preset agenda she did listen and seemed genuinely open to what he was saying but the fact that she went in to every marital discussion as if it were a tactical military operation just really rubbed me the wrong way And while I get that because it helps me achieve my goals might work from a reverse psychology point of view it doesn t help advance the germane point that a husband doing his fair share in the physical labor of a marriage is simply fair and if he doesn t he s kind of a jerk Similarly Dufu sure makes it sound like you should drop the ball on anything that you don t feel is the highest and best use of your time and simply expect your husband to do it Well I doubt he really feels like scrubbing the toilet is the highest and best use of his time either but if you can t afford a housekeeper then someone s got to do those kinds of jobs eventually Dufu gives women a pass to just declare we re not doing the chores we deem beneath us and expect and reuire our husband to pick them up without advocating any negotiation and compromise for sharing of the crappy work She seems to operate in this strange middle ground between clinging to a very antiuated patriarchal model of he s the boss marriage and wanting something better for her own relationship But rather than assuming her husband would also want a fairer and euitable division of roles she appears to repeatedly underestimate his motivations for example she assumes that fathers only contribute to childcare to make their wives happy Really Not because they feel any investment in their children s upbringing and want to be involved for the sheer joy of itDufu s entire motivation for dropping the ball and straight into her husband s lap is so that she has time to devote to her career which because she works in the non profit field of education and empowerment of women and girls she seems to place a much higher value on than most of her household and family related activities But she never talks about dropping the ball at work for instance what do you do when a manager or coworker is taking unfair advantage weaseling you into doing work well outside your job description What if like most jobs it comes with boring or administrative busywork that keeps the cogs of the valuable work you do greased Apparently craptastic tasks still have to get done at work where there is nobody to guilt or cajole into taking them off your plate And finally while Tiffany does seem a lovely person and was willing to do some self examination of her record of home life failures she has not been uite so forthright here with her work life where clearly balls that nobody ever picked up have sometimes gotten dropped The White House Project that she was rightfully proud of got shuttered Levo her next project started up under some sketchy and controversial circumstances If Drop The Ball was really about achieving by doing less and not just achieving at work by doing less at home where were the counter examples about how to juggle the work life balance from the work side of the euation What was sacrificed in the context of her career and what lessons were learned Unfortunately those uestions were never even addressed let alone answered I received an Advanced Reading Copy of this book at no cost courtesy of its publisher Flatiron Books via Goodreads Giveaways My review of this or any other book has not been influenced by its mode of acuisition

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Also starting families Mounting responsibilities at work and home leave them with no bandwidth to do what will most lead to their success Offering new perspective on why the women's leadership movement has stalled and packed with actionable advice Tiffany Dufu's Drop the Ball urges women to embrace imperfection to expect less of themselves and from others only then can they focus on what they truly care about devote the necessary energy to achieving their real goals and create the type of rich rewarding life we all desir. Thank you Call Your Girlfriend for getting this book into my life A lot of this book centers around helping working moms find balance between home and work and I wish this book had existed for me to read before coming back from maternity leave I was already recommending this book to people before I d even finished itI related to a lot of the challenges she describes and I liked that her answers went deeper than just hire a housekeeper providing exercises to identify what s really meaningful to you and how to align your day to day activities with your values I found some of those exercises very enlightening and would have even before having a kid I also appreciated hearing the perspective of a high achieving woman of color on work life balance and the personal stories the author shared of the extra pressures that come into play for people from underrepresented backgrounds I also appreciated that she talked about her attempts to achieve balance throughout her career including when she was building her career and didn t have as many financial resources Too many books on achieving balance assume a reader of privilege and this book made fewer assumptions along those lines with the exception of one big one having a partner although she does make some recommendations on how to achieve the same support system through shared living arrangements etc

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Er and personal goals was an impossibility Eventually she discovered the solution letting go In Drop the Ball Dufu recounts how she learned to reevaluate expectations shrink her to do list and meaningfully engage the assistance of others freeing the space she needed to flourish at work and to develop deeper meaningful relationships at homeEven though women are half the workforce they still represent only eighteen per cent of the highest level leaders The reasons are obvious just as women reach middle management they are. I received this ARC through a Goodreads giveawayI think this is a book that will help a lot of people I realize that there is nothing wrong with asking for help or delegating I never really entertained the idea that allowing or asking other to do things for me will help me succeed Yes I know that sounds so obvious but just like the author in the past I am always afraid that if I other people won t do it right or I feel guilty for not doing something myselfThere is so much potential in have a true domestic partnership I would recommended this to anyone who wants to learn how they can have it all without doing it all


10 thoughts on “Drop the Ball

  1. says:

    I found this book disappointing probably due to the marketing as much as anything else I had seen this advertised as a measured response to Sheryl Sandberg's Lean In but it merely turned out to be Tiffany Dufu's version of the same s

  2. says:

    Drop the Ball Achieving More by Doing Less by activist Tiffany Dufu had me very enthused and motivated at the beginning as it seemed to be well on its way to delivering on the promise of its book description But one by one misgivings started to crop up grow and multiply so that by the end of the book I was unsettled by Dufu's most basic assumptions and motivationsTo begin with while this book appears to hold up Dufu's m

  3. says:

    This was an eye opener about some of my own habits in my marriage and I'm glad I read this At heart it's a book about how women wanting it all put unnecessary stress on themselves and others to do so because that's what they've been shown ne

  4. says:

    I picked up this book because a colleague of mine said most career books for women didn't have useful information for her as a person of color So I went actively looking for a book by an author of color that had high ratings and sadly it took some doing to find one However I'm not sure that this book will meet my colleague's need as it ended

  5. says:

    I really wanted this book to be a life changer much like The Japanese Art of Tidying Up was to me Alas this book was 90% straight up disconnect and 10% tantalizing and thought provoking In some ways I adopted many of the tactics the author recommends from the very start when I had my first child because I had no desire to be the perfect mother I just wanted to retain some semblance of myself while being a mother This meant dropping a lot

  6. says:

    I received this ARC through a Goodreads giveawayI think this is a book that will help a lot of people I realize that there is nothing wrong with asking for help or delegating I never really entertained the idea that allowing or asking other to do things for me will help me succeed Yes I know that sounds so obvious but just like the author in the past I am always afraid that if I other people won't do it right or I feel guilty for not doing

  7. says:

    Drop the Ball is a how to guide on 'having it all' based on Tiffany Dufu's experience with her husband I found myself as a modernyoungish woman nodding along with so many of her perspectives and experiences She explores how despite

  8. says:

    Thank you Call Your Girlfriend for getting this book into my life A lot of this book centers around helping working moms find balance between home and work and I wish this book had existed for me to read before coming back from maternity leave I was already recommending this book to people before I'd even finished itI related to

  9. says:

    I guess I either didn't read the reviews well or took the title at face value what I didn't want was a woman telling me her story a

  10. says:

    35 starsOne of the things that's hardest about the twin problems for women of worklife balance and domestic div