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This acclaimed influential work applies the concepts of systemic family therapy to the emotional life of congregations Edwin H Friedman shows how the same understanding of family process that can a. This was a really good book which I discovered when Rich Bledsoe recommended it in a lecture I m very glad I picked it up The book is on family process counseling which refuses to treat humans as isolated individuals like most other counseling practices Rather family process views you as part of a family system or dynamic interwoven with the relationship you have with parents siblings grandparents husband wife children etcThe books strong point is on evaluating problem people He argues that most of the time the person who gets sent to the counseller has been determined to be the problem in the family Friedman believes otherwise arguing that most of the time the person who is acting out is actually caught up in a bigger problem in the relationship dynamic In fact he argues that the problem person is most likely caught in a triangulation with other people in the relationship and that the other people in the dynamic are unconsciously scapegoating the problem person Take a husband and wife Suddenly the husband starts to drink a lot and the wife begins to nag and nag because she is worried about the problems the drinking will create and the husband drinks and Friedman says this is a triangulation between the husband the drinking and the wife The stress the wife feels becomes a sort of atonement for the husband the she nags the he feels alleviated from the guilt of the drinking and keeps him from having to face his own problem The problem isn t with the wife it s with the drinking So Friedman suggests a process of de triangulation where the wife gets out from between the husband and the problem which forces him to face his problem and change In other words the wife stops letting the husband put the stress of his drinking on her meaning that now the stress must flow to where it ought to be flowing anyway onto himself Then feeling the stress he must actually deal with the problemIt is a very interesting book and other chapters in the book describe the family process system He develops a way of talking to people about it and gives examples of real counseling sessions he s had that give the theory a concrete standing Later chapters discuss how family process actually impacts physical health and how people caught in triangulation can actually develop physical problems but when they manage to de triangulate themselves the problems vanish I will definitely be reading about family process in the future

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Generation to Generation Family Process in Church and Synagogue

Id clergy in their pastoral role also has important ramifications for negotiating congregational dynamics and functioning as an effective leader Clergy from diverse denominations as well as family t. Such a helpful book Assigned to me for one of my counseling classes Still processing all that I have read and still have to write a response paper Each person is from a family system that greatly impacts and shapes that person hence family systems approach to counseling or therapy

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Herapists and counselors have found that this book directly addresses the dilemmas and crises they encounter daily It is widely used as a text in courses on pastoral care leadership and family syste. This is one of those classic books that sort of has to sit on clergy folks shelves whether you re really a fan of it or not but fortunately I m a fan Friedman takes the family systems theory developed by Bowen and applies it to the complicated life of spiritual leaders and he takes great pains to emphasize that it s any spiritual leader I m not sure I would totally agree with that because of how diverse some congregations are but the core concept of person leading a faith body usually found in the Abrahamic traditions ie imams rabbis and pastors holds The main concept is that faith leaders have three interlocking spheres triangles that affect each other professional as in our denominationtraditionoversees professional as in our congregation and personal as in our families of origin and by marriage Friedman uses cases studies and theory explanations to examine just how those three lean on and distort each other and how we can effectively learn to lead in healthy waysThe main problem with this beyond the cut and dried nature of a lot of Friedman s case studies which is just a product of that kind of writing is that it is absolutely lodged in its time The cases are pretty sexist the understanding of family is very momdadkids and the expectations are extremely dated The theory underneath however is sound The points Friedman is making still hold up extremely well how to leave and enter a new congregation come immediately to mind and I will absolutely continue referencing this throughout my career You do have to look past the language itself though


10 thoughts on “Generation to Generation Family Process in Church and Synagogue

  1. says:

    If you've never read Friedman I wouldn't recommend this one first It's not clear to me that he had an editor or at least a v

  2. says:

    This book alongside Friedman’s “A Failure of Nerve” are must reads for any pastor or organization leader Common grace on fire from this Rabbi Insert “identity in Christ” for “differentiation” and you have the keys to the kingdom Will put this on my annual re read list

  3. says:

    This was a really good book which I discovered when Rich Bledsoe recommended it in a lecture I'm very glad I picked it up The book is on family process counseling which refuses to treat humans as isolated individuals like

  4. says:

    Lots of content but not much on the practicality There were many examples but not much given on how to work with this idea effectively

  5. says:

    Such a helpful book Assigned to me for one of my counseling classes Still processing all that I have read and still have to write a response

  6. says:

    One of the most important in the short list of books that changed my life It's that good

  7. says:

    This book contains many helpful insights It is also contains content that is racist sexist and homophobic

  8. says:

    This is one of those classic books that sort of has to sit on clergy folks' shelves whether you're really a fan of it or not but fortunately I'm a fan Friedman takes the family systems theory developed by Bowen and applies it to the complicated life of spiritual leaders and he takes great pains to emphasize that it's any

  9. says:

    A text for CPE this is a re read as I encountered this book in my Ministry of Pastoral Care class a must read for any pastor that does counseling from the publisher This acclaimed influential work applies the concepts of systemic family therapy to the emotional life of congregations Edwin H Friedman shows how the same understanding of family process that can aid clergy in their pastoral role also has important ramifications for

  10. says:

    This is an important book for pastors to read Not an easy read The first 23 of the book describes family systems and how they work These chapters are essential to understanding the emotional systems in a congregation and in a pasto